Four Keys to Building & Improving Culture in your Athletic Program

Becky • October 25, 2019

By: Luke Olson, MGCP

Performance Coach

 

 

Make your youth program a priority . When I talk about our program, I mean our K-12 program. I want active involvement from my staff and players, and I try to get good people involved with my youth programs and camps. I try to make our youth sessions efficient and with great purpose. I want the sessions to prepare them for a future with our program, which to us means good skills, good work ethic, and good character. Our program wants to see a lot of interaction between our high school players and our youth players. We feel like this fills our stands and creates great game environments. We want our youth players watching how our high school kids compete and envisioning themselves in the same situations in their future, and we want our high school players to understand that they are constantly being watched. We feel that this creates consistency with the program so the younger players know what is expected of them both on and off the floor once they begin their freshman year in our high school program. Consistency within your K-12 program builds culture.

 

Create strong relationships with players . I have high expectations from all of the players in our program. Our players have intense off-season workouts, they work numerous youth camps and volunteer their time at community events. Classroom behavior and grades are checked on during the year, and our in-season schedule is very time-consuming and intense. I feel like all of this allows us a chance to compete at a high level and use our influence in the right way. I wouldn’t be able to expect this from our players unless they trusted me and trusted that I have their best interests in mind. This can only happen with strong relationships that are created, improved, and developed outside of basketball workouts. This starts in our youth sessions. These sessions are far less intense than our high school workouts which allows for more time to get to know them. As they become high school players, this continues with individual meetings, small group meetings, classroom time, time spent after practice or workouts just checking in. The more you get to know your players on a personal level, the better you can coach them. What can you do to help them? What fills their cups? What motivates them? Once players know you are invested in their life outside of their sport, the trust builds and their buy-in to your program strengthens.

 

Create a Safe Environment . Don’t misunderstand this. My definition of safe might be different than yours. Our ideal practice environment is one actually driven by conflict. Conflict that takes place in a safe environment is beneficial to the group, but conflict can be detrimental in other types of situations. We want to create a practice environment where intense effort is encouraged, appreciated, and expected, resulting in a highly competitive and “chippy” atmosphere. We want all of our players to push each other outside their comfort zone on a consistent basis at practice, knowing that if done in the right way, all players will see improvement. We feel that this can happen if every player knows that our practices are safe places to give that kind of effort. We try to send the message that only true competitors, those that understand and appreciate how important it is to get after each other in practice, are allowed into our practices. If we didn’t believe that you were capable of giving that kind of effort, we wouldn’t have brought you into our program. If we didn’t feel that you were capable of moving on once practice is over, you wouldn’t be allowed to be part of our program. We feel like the safest environment is one where players can get after each other in a competitive, conflict-driven practice, feeling confident that there will be no carry over once practice ends. If we can create that type of environment, our players will benefit, the trust between coaches and players grows, and our culture will be stronger.

 

Coach with Consistency . We encourage aggressive mistakes in practice. (These are different than mistakes caused by a lack of effort – we will not tolerate effort mistakes!) We feel that the team that makes more aggressive mistakes in the game has a better chance of winning because it gives our kids an aggressive mindset and not a timid one. We also want our players to hear us tell them to make mistakes, which we hope allows them an easier path to move on from their mistakes in a game. Because we encourage them in practice, we have to be cognizant of how we react to mistakes in a game. We try not to show any reaction to a mistake other than one that shows complete confidence in the player that made the mistake. The player already knows the mistake was made, no need for us to point it out, he needs us to show him that we still have complete confidence in his ability to make the next play. We have to be consistent in how we handle mistakes in practices and in games in order to allow our players to play at a high level. Players that play without fear of making mistakes have a better chance to play at the top of their potential. I believe the worst thing I could do during a game is to “sell out” my player with a reaction that highlights a mistake he made and admonishes myself. Coaches that do this appear to be blaming the kid, justifying their ability to coach, and virtually leaving his player on an island by himself. No coach intentionally coaches his player to make a mistake, and no player intends to make a mistake. In the difficult moment after a mistake, the player will likely hear something from the crowd, an opponent, or possibly a teammate. He needs to look at his coach and see confidence and trust. Mistakes by players are opportunities to build trust – accepting a player’s mistake or even sharing the blame of the mistake strengthens that player’s trust in you. Strong cultures are built on trust, and trust is earned in the difficult moments, not the easy ones.

Luke’s career has always revolved around sports. A three-sport athlete in high school, he played College Basketball at Hastings College from 1999-2003, earning 1 st Team All-Conference and graduating as a 1,000 point scorer. He started his coaching career as a college assistant, and has continued into the high school ranks in Nebraska. He took the Head Boys Basketball job at Bennington High School in 2011, when the school was transitioning from Class C to Class B. As one of the smallest schools in the state in Class B at the time, he began looking for other ways for his teams to gain an edge against the larger competition. One of those methods was the mental game work that we use here at Focus. After a 22-26 record his first two years, his teams have gone 112-42, winning four consecutive district championships and two consecutive conference championships. In the past 5 years, he has coached the 1 st , 3 rd , and 4 th All-time leading scorers in Bennington history, and his teams have broken several school records. As a Certified Mental Game Coach, Luke has used the curriculum with several of his players and seen tremendous results. His players have been named to an All-State team seven times and four have earned Collegiate Scholarships. The MGCP program has given Luke an avenue to continue to help young athlete’s put themselves in a position to have more success on the field, court, or course. More importantly, the skills that we work on make our athletes happier, more confident, and can be applied to all aspects of life. The stress and anxiety level of today’s athletes are as high as they’ve ever been – allow us to help them manage the stress and work to achieve the goals they have set for themselves.

By Becky Meline September 10, 2025
By: Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP One of my favorite topics to discuss with my athletes is the connection between their performance, and their relationship with God. I have found that those who lean on their faith and use God’s strength in their journey of athletics tend to be less stressed and happier knowing that they are not alone in pressure moments. Faith is never something I push on my athletes, if it’s already there GREAT! We build on it. If it’s not, I just encourage them to be curious about it. Every athlete knows the feeling—the nerves before a big game, the pressure to perform, the expectations from coaches, teammates, and even themselves. Sports bring incredible highs, but they can also bring crushing stress. In those moments, it can feel like your entire worth is tied to the scoreboard. But the truth is, your identity is found in something far greater than a win or loss: your relationship with God. Faith offers a foundation that no missed shot or bad game can shake. When you invite God into your athletic journey, the pressure doesn’t disappear, but it transforms. Instead of feeling like you carry the weight of performance on your shoulders, you can hand that weight to Him. Play for an Audience of One It’s easy to feel pressure when you think everyone is watching and judging your every move. God has given you spiritual gifts and every time you compete, practice, stand as a leader—God smiles. I encourage my athletes to shift their mindset to play for God—your true “Audience of One”—it changes everything. Your effortbecomes an act of worship, and the outcome becomes less important than the heart you bring. Many of my athletes choose to write on their tape job or wrist “Audience of One” as a reminder. Remember Who You Are in Christ The world measures success by stats and records, but God doesn’t. Your value is not defined by points scored, minutes played, or trophies earned. You are already chosen, loved, and enough because of Him. Knowing that frees you from tying your identity to your performance. Use Prayer as Your Pre-Game Routine Many athletes warm up their bodies before a game. Why not warm up your spirit too? A simple prayer before stepping on the court, field, or track can ground you: “Lord, give me peace. Help me use the gifts You’ve given me for Your glory. Win or lose, may I honor You.” Prayer calms nerves, centers your mind, and reminds you you’re not alone out there. Trust God With the Outcome Pressure often comes from fear—fear of losing, making mistakes, or letting people down. Faith helps you release that fear. You can trust that God already has a plan for your life, and one game will not make or break it. Success isn’t always about the scoreboard; sometimes it’s about perseverance, character, and growth. Some of the biggest lessons I have learned in my own athletic journey have come through pain and heart break. It’s hard to see any benefit in the moment--but I lean on a phrase I heard from on a pastor at our University church service after one of my hardest week in college. He said, “Faith is believing in advance, what will only make sense in reverse.” I had to trust that this really difficult experience was not wasted and that it will help me somehow in the future. I have no doubt God sent that message to me and I have found this to be true in all of my hard times. Find a phrase or scripture to lean on in hard times. Lean on Scripture in Tough Moments When doubt or pressure creeps in, Scripture becomes your fuel. Verses like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13) or “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7) are reminders that God is with you in every challenge. Sports are a gift, but they were never meant to define you. By anchoring your heart in God, you can step into competition with confidence, freedom, and peace. Pressure will come, but faith transforms it into purpose. Play hard, compete with joy, and remember—you’re already victorious in Him.
August 27, 2025
By: Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP If you’ve ever sprinted from practice to a late-night study session, or sat in class still sore from the game the night before, you know the reality of being a student-athlete. It’s not just about making the winning play or acing the test—it’s about doing both, often on the same day. The pressure is real. But here’s the thing: the very challenges you face are also what make you stronger, more resilient, and more capable than you might realize. The Pressure of Game Day Picture this: it’s the night before the big game. Your stomach is tied in knots, and you can’t shut off the “what ifs.” What if I mess up? What if I let my team down? What if I’m not good enough? Every athlete has felt that way. The best learn to shift the pressure into power. Instead of fearing those nerves, they reframe them as fuel. That nervous energy is your body’s way of saying, “I’m ready.” When the whistle blows or the ball is served, focus on just one moment at a time. Not the score, not the outcome—just the play in front of you. Some athletes use music, some use breathing, some use a special pre-game routine. Whatever grounds you, lean on it. Pressure doesn’t have to crush you—it can sharpen you. Balancing the Books and the Ball Of course, the challenge isn’t only on the field. It’s also in the classroom. Imagine finishing an away game late at night and realizing you still have an essay due the next day. That’s the balancing act of a student-athlete: your sport demands so much, but so does school. Here’s where discipline becomes your greatest strength. A planner or calendar might not seem exciting, but it’s your lifeline. Breaking big assignments into smaller steps and using pockets of time—like studying on the bus or reviewing flashcards between classes—helps you stay ahead instead of drowning in deadlines. And don’t forget: teachers and coaches are human too. If you communicate with them early, most will respect the effort you’re putting in. You don’t have to carry it all alone. Don’t Lose Yourself in the Grind It’s easy to feel like your identity is just “the athlete” or “the student.” But you are more than your GPA and more than your stats. Make time to laugh with friends, enjoy hobbies, or simply rest. Sleep, nutrition, and mental recovery are not luxuries—they’re essentials. One day you’ll look back and realize the juggling act of being a student-athlete prepared you for so much more than sports or school. It taught you grit. It taught you balance. It taught you how to keep moving forward even when life is packed with pressure. Final Word Being a student-athlete isn’t easy. You’ll have days where the weight feels too heavy. But remember: pressure is a privilege. It means people believe in you. It means you’ve worked hard enough to be trusted with responsibility. And when you learn to handle that pressure—both on the field and in the classroom—you’ll carry those lessons with you for the rest of your life.
Child sitting, using a tablet, on a black couch.  Blue clothing, light skin, various app icons on the screen.
August 27, 2025
By: Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Social media is a huge part of today’s world. Apps like Snapchat, TikTok, and Instagram are where many kids connect with friends, share their lives, and explore trends. But as a parent, it’s normal to wonder: When is the right time to let my child start using these apps? How do I keep them safe while still respecting their growing independence? Here are some practical tips to help you set healthy boundaries and keep tabs on your child’s social media use. 1. Know the Platforms Before You Say Yes Before allowing your child on any app, take time to learn how it works. Create your own account, explore the settings, and understand the privacy controls. Each app has unique features: Snapchat – Messages and pictures disappear quickly, making it harder for parents to track. TikTok – Highly engaging, with a mix of entertainment, trends, and sometimes inappropriate content. Instagram & Others – Visual-heavy platforms where likes and follows can impact self-esteem. When you know the app, you’ll be better prepared to set realistic rules. 2. Consider Age and Maturity, Not Just Rules Most platforms set their minimum age at 13 (due to U.S. privacy laws), but maturity matters more than the number. Ask yourself: Can my child follow family rules without constant reminders? Do they handle disappointment and conflict appropriately? Are they open to talking with me about uncomfortable situations? If the answer is “not yet,” it may be best to wait a little longer before granting access. 3. Start with Training Wheels When you do allow access, treat it like getting a driver’s license: start with supervision. Some ways to do this include: Require that you know their passwords at first. Keep accounts private, approving only friends they know in real life. Allow limited time online (e.g., 30–60 minutes per day). Encourage them to use social media in shared family spaces, not behind closed doors. 4. Use Built-In Parental Controls and Monitoring Tools Most apps now have parental controls or “Family Pairing” features. For example: TikTok has Family Pairing, allowing you to set screen time limits, filter content, and restrict direct messages. Snapchat offers Family Center, which lets you see who your child is friends with and who they’re messaging. iPhone/Android devices have built-in screen time management to limit overall app use. These tools don’t replace conversation but can support the boundaries you’ve set. 5. Have Ongoing Conversations (Not Just Rules) Checking in isn’t about snooping — it’s about teaching. Ask questions like: “What’s your favorite thing about TikTok right now?” “Have you seen anything online that made you uncomfortable?” “How do you decide who to follow or accept as a friend?” By talking openly and often, your child learns to see you as a safe person to come to if something goes wrong online. 6. Model Healthy Social Media Habits Kids notice how parents use technology. If they see you scrolling at the dinner table or checking notifications late at night, they’ll take that as “normal.” Show them balance by: Putting your phone down during family time. Setting your own screen time limits. Talking about how you choose what to share (and what to keep private). 7. Focus on Trust, Not Just Control Ultimately, your goal isn’t to monitor your child forever — it’s to help them build the skills to use social media responsibly on their own. Start with close supervision, gradually loosen restrictions as they show responsibility, and always keep the door open for honest conversation. Final Thought There’s no one “right” age to allow Snapchat, TikTok, or Instagram. The right time depends on your child’s maturity, your family’s values, and your willingness to stay engaged in their online world. With clear limits, open conversations, and ongoing guidance, you can help your child navigate social media safely and confidently.
Football player in green uniform running with the ball, other player in red close behind.
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By: Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Every athlete—no matter how talented—faces moments of self-doubt. Questions like “Am I good enough?” or “Do I really belong on this team?” can creep in before a big game, after a mistake, or when comparing yourself to teammates. The truth is: self-doubt is normal. What matters most is how you respond to it. Building the right mindset and tools can help you move through those doubts and refocus on what you can control. Here are some practical strategies for athletes to handle self-doubt and step confidently into their role on the team: 1. Shift Your Focus from Comparison to Growth It’s easy to compare yourself to teammates or opponents, but comparison often fuels insecurity. Instead, track your own growth. Ask yourself: “Am I improving from last week? Last season?” Keep a training journal where you write down small wins. Focusing on personal progress helps you recognize that you belong because you’re committed to growth, not because you’re perfect. 2. Reframe the “Am I Good Enough?” Question Instead of asking “Am I good enough?” try asking: “What can I do today to get 1% better?” “How can I help my team right now?” This shift turns self-doubt into action. It keeps you grounded in effort and learning, not in judgment. 3. Use Positive Self-Talk What you say to yourself matters. Doubt often comes with a harsh inner voice. Challenge that voice by creating a short, empowering phrase you can repeat during tough moments, such as: “I’ve trained for this.” “I bring value to this team.” “One play doesn’t define me.” Athletes who consistently practice positive self-talk train their minds just like they train their bodies. 4. Lean Into the Team Mindset Remember—you’re not on your team by accident. Coaches chose you for a reason. Instead of focusing on where you rank compared to others, think about what you add: hustle, energy, encouragement, a specific skill set. Belonging isn’t about being perfect; it’s about contributing to the bigger picture. 5. Normalize Mistakes Self-doubt often spikes after a missed shot, an error, or a bad game. But mistakes are part of being an athlete. Use them as fuel to learn instead of proof that you don’t belong. A powerful reframe: “Mistakes mean I’m pushing my limits.” “Every athlete—even the best—has bad games. 6. Develop a Pre-Performance Routine Having a routine before practice or competition can anchor you when doubts rise. This could include deep breathing, listening to music, visualizing your role, or using your positive affirmation. A consistent routine tells your body and mind: “I’m ready.” 7. Talk About It Many athletes think they’re the only ones struggling with self-doubt, but that’s rarely true. Opening up to a coach, teammate, or sports counselor can help you realize you’re not alone. Sometimes, simply naming your doubt makes it lose its power. Final Takeaway Self-doubt doesn’t mean you don’t belong—it means you care. The question isn’t whether you’re “good enough.” The real question is: Are you willing to keep showing up, learning, and growing? The answer to that is already yes. Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Licensed Clinician & Certified Performance Coach Focus Therapy & Performance Coaching 402.513.4416
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